We all have in mind a certain number that we want the scale to be upon waking every morning. I myself have fallen victim to this more often than not over the last 10-15 years of my life. If the scale is moving closer in the direction we want then we are happy for the day. If it is not we are often disappointed, sad, frustrated and upset for a portion if not all of the day. Sometimes we even let the number on the scale determine how much we eat for the day. (please don’t do this)
Every now and then we let the scale determine our self-worth. Intellectually we know this is silly but in the moment emotionally we are sad and distraught. One of the main problems is that people have this arbitrary number in their head that they think they should weigh. They think that if they get to this weight that their life will miraculously fall into place. It won’t. Often times this number is unrealistic and rooted in comparison to others around us. When a client gives me their goal weight, I will sometimes tell them how much I weigh. (BTW: I am 5’0” ~135lb). After I tell them that, there is a brief pause because it is only then that they realize that their number might be a bit unrealistic. If your number is unrealistic, you are fighting a losing battle. One that is going to be fraught with failure and frustration. What we should be focusing on health, how we feel and the habits that we are building to get there.
What if I told you that I could get you to your goal weight and in record time but you would not be able to sleep through the night, you would always be tired, you would always be cranky, you would always be hungry, you would have a limited repertoire of food that you could eat and say goodbye to enjoying a glass a wine and dinner with friends. Does that seem like a life you would want?
As I began this journey with macros, this number of 125lbs was always my goal. To be honest I got pretty close. I got to 127 lbs. Do you know what happened when I got close to a 125 lbs….. I wondered if I could be 120lbs. We all do this. Whenever we hit a goal, we are always searching for the next goal. Today I sit somewhere around 133 - 135.
Guess what, I am happier and healthier than I was at 127. I can lift more weight, I feel that my performance in Crossfit is not only on point but I feel like I am just scratching the surface of my potential. This is something that is important to me. I sleep well (when my kids are sleeping) and enjoy each day with great energy. I eat out weekly. I like the way my clothes fit and how I look in the mirror. Most importantly my eating habits are the best that they have ever been. I am eating fruit, lean meats and most amazingly vegetables multiple times a day.
Yes, we all have goals and I think goals are great!! I really do. I think weighing ourselves is important AT TIMES. It helps us to know if we are going in the right direction. I just think that we should look at the number on the scale as one data point not the only data point on our journey to a healthier self. We need to internalize that the scale doesn't determine the quality of our life….we do.
Have questions? Contact me at Theresa.Worley@icloud.com