Why reaching your goals are not the secret to long-term happiness


If you haven't noticed I love Crossfit. I love the daily friendly competition, the camaraderie and the fact that you can always be better. When I first started Crossfit I was intimidated by the barbell. I was especially nervous about the complex lifts like the snatch and clean & jerk. Moves that looked easy to master on youtube but in real life were like trying to rub your stomach and pat your head at the same time. As I became more comfortable with these two movements, they became my favorite within the conglomerate of moves that you perform in Crossfit. The reason that I enjoy them so much is because much of your ability to improve has to do with technique. Of course strength is involved but technique is what really separates you from the pack. And technique can always be well………..better. I love that as I tweak my technique I am able to lift more. Stay with me if you are not a crossfitter or olympic lifter…..

What I especially look forward to is 1 RM (rep max) days. These are the days where you see how much progress you have made at these lifts. Can you do better than last time? These days are filled with excitement and a little bit of anxiety.

For the longest time I was stuck being able to clean 125lbs. No matter how much I wanted to clean more it wasn't happening. Each time we did a 1RM day I would hope to clean just a little bit more like 127.5 or 130...Just something that would show forward progress.

Over this past year something happened…...I started to be able to clean 130 then 135 then 140 and so on. Some of this is that I spent more time in the gym this past year and have worked on my technique. I feel a lot of it has to do with my nutrition but that’s not my point in this post. In less then a year I have added over 25lbs to my clean. I remember about two months ago I cleaned & jerked 150lb. I was ecstatic. I never in a million years thought I would move that kind of weight. You know what happened about five minutes after the excitement wore off,……...I wondered if I could have lifted more. Within 10 minutes the glory of achieving what I thought I could never achieve wore off. Less than a month later I added another 2.5lbs to a weight I never thought I could lift…..five minutes later I felt the same….a little bit empty wondering if I could have lifted more.

Here is my point. The goal that you hold on a pedestal to weigh a certain amount, fit into a certain size or look a certain way that you are sure if you get there you will make you happy….. won't. When you get to that goal you will still be you and as soon as you reach that goal you will be looking to what is next.

The most important part in all this is to enjoy the journey. Enjoy learning to prepare food for the week. Enjoy learning to love veggies. Enjoy learning to move your body! Enjoy the progress each week but also the struggle. It is in the process where we change as a person and our life not when we reach the end goal. If you dread every moment of the process, when and if you reach your goal it will feel empty. On the other hand if you enjoy the process, the challenges and learning about how to change yourself, to be better than yesterday I think you will have a better chance of reaching your goals but to be honest you will be so happy with the person you have become it will just be another notch on your belt.

Not sure where to start! Contact me at Theresa.Worley@icloud.com